Head of School

As we take the first steps into the school year together, let us all try to model living in the present, to do more learning and less judging, and to make the small, everyday moments count. Let us join with our girls and young women as they explore what it means to be fully present, mindful, and open in their pursuits and their relationships. Let us together as one school community harness the truly life-changing power of presence.

Everywhere I look, I see examples of the expansive creativity, distributed leadership, and collective commitment of Hewitt’s teachers to advance girls’ learning, to guide students to discover their strengths so they can create fulfilling paths forward, and to interrogate, resist, and ultimately redress practices that unintentionally train students for a world that no longer exists. To my mind, there is nothing more central to our mission than this.

This year’s Commencement speaker exemplifies Hewitt as an institution that calls forth the best version of people. For over two decades, Nancy Gallin has made an indelible mark on countless Hewitt students, alumnae, and families. To watch Nancy in the classroom is to watch a historian who disturbs the untroubled waters of history and moves her students to think differently. 

If we dig down into Hewitt’s foundational soil, empathy is there at the root. Empathy matters because we believe that school should liberate students to do something in this world that is meaningful not only for themselves but also for others—and that the empathy built through the “other-orientation” of students’ pursuits is vitally important for cultivating a sense of meaning and purpose in life.

Every day, as I watch Hewitt girls rise to the challenge on the field, the court, and the stage, I think about how we can help them transfer that bravery and healthy aggressiveness to moments of academic assessment, including standardized tests.

When I joined the Hewitt community three years ago, I never anticipated that conference day would become one of my favorite days of the school year. Yet it is. Why? It is because all day long, I bear witness in our two lobbies to a steady stream of parents and students, coming and going, full of anticipation, pride, determination, and hope for the future.

I joined 154 other New York heads of independent schools to sign an open letter that appeared in The New York Times on Sunday, February 25, 2018. I am proud to stand with my colleagues as we insist on the safety of our schools and our children.

At Hewitt, everywhere I turn, I see teachers, students, staff, parents, trustees, and alumnae unified by the same vision of a world where girls grow up knowing that their voice is their power; where women have agency over their lives, their careers, and their bodies; where women have the confidence to stand up for themselves and for those who cannot do so on their own.

To flourish means that you are engaged in your world, that you have good relationships, that you feel accomplished, and--above all--that your life is connected to a purpose that is bigger than you. I like to think that if there is a sacred inner core of Hewitt, it is this wholehearted commitment to nurturing the kind of soil in which students, faculty, staff, parents, and indeed the school itself can flourish.

I still hadn’t moved from my chair—yet in my stillness, I realized that my choice not to react to my daughter’s mishap created the condition for her to learn and grow from it. In order to allow her to square off against her fear, I had to square off against my instinct and desire to protect her. I had to sit with my own anxiety and not act on it. Just because she was scared did not mean she needed my protection. If I stepped in, it would be about my needs, not hers.